Monday, January 18, 2010

Rough Day

Today was a rough day. Hurt husband, sad wife, whiney baby girl, etc (Our Spidey was happy, as always).
But today I'd like to focus on something else.
I am a happy person. I truly am grateful for the things that I have. I have a wonderful husband, a beautiful daughter, and the most handsome son in the entire world.
But does that make it so that I have no right to say that things could be better? Does it mean that I have no right to wish I was home with my kids?
My posts were somewhat invalidated tonight.
Hurtful things were said and that is not what this was ever about.
This is MY blog, remember?
I thought this was an invulnerable place to put my feelings and yet, my feelings got shot in the butt tonight.
"Maybe you should've waited to have kids until you could afford them."
I am feeling that comment cut deeper than it was probably meant (or maybe it was meant as a harsh, inconsiderate comment) Sugar coated comments may not be what I need but really, what do I need from you?
I don't necessarily need your love (unless you are one of my family members reading this).
But what I seriously don't need is your hatred.
This wasn't about proving myself as a person, it was a small window inside my life, a small glimpse at my feelings, a helpful outsource for the things I am feeling.
You honestly have no idea what things may be like for me on an every day basis and I the same for you.
So why not stay friendly and nice, not rude and hateful?
No one needs hatred.
No one.


candhterry said...

Just know that you are a great mom! I totally understand what you're going through! I had to do the same when I had my first child and it was brutal. Sorry to hear that someone would even feel the need to be so rude and inconsiderate! I guess she must have had too much time on her hands. Just ignore her comment and keep up on your entries. They will keep you on track and I love reading them and getting to know you and your cute family!!! At least YOU know that you are doing what you should...that's what matters! Have a good day!!

Juli said...

I can't believe someone actually said that to you!!!! I am so sorry. I know how it feels to have someone say things like that and I know how much it hurts. Just know that I'm here if you need to chat and that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Juli said...

Just one more thing to whoever said that...did you ever stop to think that children are not ALWAYS a choice. Sometimes they come as a surprise and it doesn't mean we would trade those surprises for anything (even if you spend two months in bed as a result of it) but sometimes we would have waited a while longer to have kids when someone else had bigger plans for us!! Just wait until you get a beautiful surprise that stretches your budget!!!!!!!! I love you Suze!!

Ken_and_Becky said...

If everyone waited until they thought they "had enough money" to have kids, they'd never do it. The choice to become a parent, or at least to be a parent (for those little surprises :) comes with blessings because you're making the right choices and life is hard and people find themselves with a lower-than-desired budget even without kids. You make those hard sacrifices for your children and you reap the rewards and lessons that could never be gained otherwise. Besides kids don't cost THAT much.

Tabitha Danielle said...

Hi Suzanne, I don't think we have ever met... but I'm Blaine's girlfriend. I read your post and then read those rude comments by "joey". I think that is awful for someone to say, and my heart goes out to you. You seem like a good mother and that you care about your children. Also, judging by the pictures, your children look happy and healthy... that's what matters. I'm sure that every mother would like to stay home with their child, but sometimes that just isn't an option for awhile. I actually commend you for working and dealing with being away from your children, so as you guys can provide a future for them. Just remember that this won't be forever. You will have a time where all you do is stay home with your babies. I hope that comment didn't cut too deep... just keep your head up doll =)